5 Emotional Wounds From Childhood That Persist In Adulthood
The problems we have experienced in childhood determine the quality of our life like adults.
They also can affect the way of action that one day will adopt our children as well as how we face adversity.
Somehow, from these emotional wounds or painful experiences from childhood, we are creating a part of our personality.
1. Fear of leaving
Loneliness is the worst enemy of those who were abandoned during childhood. There is a constant attention to the disadvantages, which will lead those who have suffered to leave their partners or projects while it is still early for it. A fear that they will not be the ones who will be abandoned.
This is some kind of “I’ll leave before you leave me”, no one supports me, I can’t do all this “if you go, do not come back” …
People who have felt the experience of leaving in childhood, must face their fear of loneliness, fear of rejection, and invisible barriers to physical contact.
Wounds caused by abandonment are not easy to treat. You will become self-conscious when the wounds begin to heal and when the fear of loneliness disappears and when it is replaced by an inner dialogue that is positive and full of hope.
2. Fear of rejection
Since it is a deep wound, it causes internal rejection. We think of what we have experienced, our thoughts and feelings.
When it appears, it can affect many factors, such as the rejection of a parent, a family or self. This creates a feeling of rejection, negative thought, a feeling of undesirable that leads to self-rejection.
A person suffering from this painful experience feels he does not deserve the affection or understanding of anyone, and is isolated in his inner void because of the fear of rejection. Probably, if you had these problems during childhood, you would be now an “elusive” person.
For this reason, it is necessary to work on your inner fears, and the panic-causing situations.
If this is your case, think of yourself, risk and make a decision for yourself. The fact that some people are leaving you will less and less disturb you and you won’t take that too personally. They will simply forget you sometimes.
This wound occurs when at different moments we have the feeling that others do not approve of what we are doing and criticizing us. You can even transmit this problem to your children, telling them that they are unimaginative, rude and saucy, as if to expose your problems to the other: this DESTROYS the child’s self-confidence.
In this way, the type of personality that is created with this frequency becomes “a person who depends on others”. You can take the attitude of “tyranny” and egocentric as a defense mechanism, and you humiliate others to create armor to protect yourself.
If this is part of your story, then you have to work on your own independence, your freedom, understanding your needs and fears, as well as your priorities.
4. Cheat and fear of believing others
These feelings occur when a child feels cheated, especially by one of his parents who did not comply with that promise. This leads to distrust arising from this problem that can turn into envy and other negative feelings, as well as the feeling that they do not deserve what they are promised and what others have.
These childhood problems create suspicious persons and people who always want to have everything for themselves. If you have suffered similar situations during your childhood, you will probably need to have some kind of control over others, which is usually justified with strong character.
These people admit their mistakes because of the way they react. They have the need to work on patience, tolerance, as well as to learn to be responsible for their actions.
It arises in the context when people who care about children are cold and authoritarian. During childhood, excessive demands that exceed the limit, create a feeling of worthlessness and inefficiency, both in childhood and in adulthood.
The direct consequence of those who have suffered injustice is rigidity, because these people try to become very important and to win great power. This will probably lead to the creation of a fantasy of order and perfectionism, as well as the inability to be confident in the decisions they make. You need to work on trust and mental strength, trying to be as flexible as you can and trust others.
Now that you know 5 of mental wounds that may affect your well-being, your health and your ability to develop, you can start with the treatment.