It Is More Important To Be Who You Are Than To Be Positive!
We live in a society that creates pressure to always think positively. In fact, even articles on this site are about the importance of positive thinking.
Do not misunderstand me, positive thinking is great and can lead to a happier and more fulfilled life, but what about those nasty negative emotions that occur from time to time?
Will we ignore them and silence them with positive thinking? Do we feel guilty and ashamed of thinking negatively?
If you resonate with these questions, there is a great chance that you are not alone.
Nowadays, we are often subjected to the pressure of positive thinking that makes us feel guilty or “less worthy” if we have negative thoughts, says Forever conscious.
Even in spiritual communities, our negative thoughts can be linked to our ego and can all easily be released with some conscious breaths … right?
But that does not always work.
Anger, pain and negative thinking are all the necessary and important emotions to be appreciated and sometimes you need attention, more than deep breathing (although they can always help).
Anger, pain and negative thinking can help us express who we are and allow us to actually have a healthy state of mind. (I’ll tell you more about it later).
Many scientists believe that negative thinking is a sign of a healthier mind, as is the way the body is protected and warns us of the fact that something is wrong.
Often when we feel angry or depressed, our body gives us the knowledge that something is wrong and that something needs to be corrected.
Often when we suppress negative emotions and conceal them with a smile, we push our negative emotions deeper into our bodies.
With time, it causes more stress, more anxiety and a longer feeling of depression.
Although you never want negative emotions to float around you all the time, when they appear, it is very important to recognize them and give them love.
It is also very important to listen to them and try to understand what your mind, body, and soul may be trying to say.
In fact, think of all your emotions as a way your whole being communicates with you. Think of your emotions as a compass that helps you move through this life and make changes or adjustments.
Often when we feel anger or other negative emotions, this is usually because we feel pain at a deeper level.
It is easier to feel anger and other surface emotions instead of pain, which is why we sometimes go into these emotions and stay there.
Only when we really release the pain we can be free of anger and negative thinking.
And that can only be done when we learn to accept our anger and other negative emotions.
We will achieve this in this way:
1) Do not be afraid of your negative thoughts and realize that the Universe won’t punish you because of having them.
2) Use negative thoughts as a reminder or sign that something is wrong with your body, mind, and soul, and something needs to be resolved.
3) Accept your negative emotions and allow yourself to feel them without shame or guilt.
4) Understand that negative emotions have no connection with you or with other people, but with the situation.
5) You do not have to remove your negative thoughts right away, but you have to be aware of the fact that you need to do something about them.
It’s okay to wallow in negativity for a short time, but if you do not start changing the energy and work on their healing, it will only cause you to feel even more miserable.
One of the most powerful ways to reduce anger and negativity is to sit down and let yourself feel what you truly feel, with no resistance.
When you do this, you can give yourself an opportunity to identify where it comes from and how you can make some changes.
Another effective tool is to ask yourself – “Why am I hurt?”
Below negative emotions there is always some kind of pain.
And finally, the golden rule for dealing with negativity:
“If I loved myself, what would I do in this situation?”